From A Suitcase At 20 to FIRE Freedom: Why I Ditched Small Talk for a Life That’s Me

Small talk? Hard pass. Give me a quiet lake or spot in the mountains, a snoring boxer dog, or a deep dive into dividend investing any day. I’m an introvert who’d rather solve a puzzle than swap weather reports, and I’ve learned life’s too short for surface-level chatter. At 20, I made a choice that changed everything: I packed a suitcase, left home, and moved across the country to nanny for a family I’d never met. No backup plan, just a gut feeling I’d figure it out. Spoiler: I did. That leap taught me freedom isn’t loud or flashy—it’s steady, like dividends growing while you’re meal-prepping or hiking a mountain. Today, I’m chasing FIRE, building a life of peace and purpose, and I’m here to talk about what really matters. Want to skip the fluff and get to the good stuff? Let’s dive in.

The Leap That Started It All

I was 20, restless, and craving something bigger than my hometown. So, I did what any slightly reckless introvert might: I said yes to a nanny gig in a new state, with strangers, no safety net. Picture me, wide-eyed, hauling a single suitcase and a whole lot of “What am I doing?” vibes. That year was a little messy but all in all not bad—learning to care for the kids, navigating a new city, and figuring out who I was away from everything familiar. Looking back, it was all a little magical actually. It showed me I could bet on myself and win. When that gig ended, I didn’t crawl back home. I landed my first 9-5 job, stayed independent, and started carving my own path. Losing my dad at 21, just a year later, sealed the deal: life’s too precious for “safe” choices or meaningless chit-chat. I wanted a life that felt like mine.

Freedom, Not Hustle

That bold move planted a seed—one that grew into my obsession with freedom. Not the loud, hustle-culture kind, but the quiet kind: mornings with my coffee and my boxer’s snores, trails where the only noise is wind through the pines, or Sundays in church where my soul feels still. I found a tool to make that freedom real: dividend investing. It’s not sexy or instant, but it’s steady. Like meal-prepping a week of healthy eats, it’s about small, intentional choices that stack up. Dividends are my ticket to FIRE—a life where I’m not chained to a desk, but free to rescue boxers, maybe a horse someday, or just sit by a lake and breathe. I’m not here to sell you a get-rich-quick scheme (yawn). I’m here to say freedom starts with betting on what lights you up, whether that’s a stock portfolio or a quirky passion for puzzles.

Why Small Talk Sucks (And What’s Better)

Let’s be real: small talk is like eating plain oatmeal—nobody’s excited about it. I’d rather reorganize my dividend spreadsheet than ask, “How’s the weather?” That’s why I’m all about soul talk—conversations that peel back the layers and reveal who you are, not just what you do. When I meet someone new, I don’t care about their job title. I want to know: What’s a moment that shaped you? What’s a dream you’re chasing, even if it feels wild? Those questions spark magic. They’re how I’ve found my tribe—people who’d rather geek out over ETFs or dog rescue than fake a smile at a networking mixer. If you’re an introvert like me, you get it: one real connection beats a dozen business cards any day.

Your Turn: What’s Your Bold Move?

I’m still that 20-year-old at heart, betting on myself and chasing a life that feels true. Now, I’m building toward FIRE, meal-prepping my way to health, and dreaming of a ranch full of rescued animals. But this isn’t just my story—it’s an invitation. What’s a bold move you’ve made that felt you? Maybe you quit a job, started a side hustle, or just said no to something that wasn’t your vibe. Share it in the comments or shoot me a message—I’m all ears. And if you’re curious about dividends or how to start your own freedom journey, let’s chat. No small talk, promise. 😏

Conclusion

Life’s too short to play small or fake enthusiasm for boring convos. Whether it’s a suitcase at 20, a dividend portfolio, or a quiet moment with your dog, chase what makes you feel alive. For me, it’s about freedom, health, and connections that go deeper than the surface. So, let’s skip the “How’s it going?” and get to the good stuff. What’s your story? I can’t wait to hear it.

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